Manifesto

I am a feminist men’s dating coach. Here’s what that means…

I believe in political, social, and economic equality for all people.

Everyone has the right to sexual autonomy.

That means they have the right to decide when, how, and with whom to conduct their sexual life.

Gender norms are a social construct.

There’s no right way to “be a man.” These labels are placed on us from birth and can limit our abilities to be great romantic partners. Working outside of the home, being a “ladies’ man,” and using aggression as communication are not inherently “male,” just as being a domestic homemaker who does all the housework is not inherently “female.”

Cultural expectations of masculinity can be harmful to men.

Suicide and substance abuse are two problems that disproportionately affect men in a culture of traditional masculinity. I believe you should be free to express yourself and feeling good in your mind and body is important! Mental health struggles can arise when you find yourself in masculine stereotypes that don’t align with who you really are.

Men and women can be equitable partners in the modern world.

Many men want to do things differently from their fathers and grandfathers. Modern men aren’t afraid of powerful or successful women. You believe in being true partners, which means helping split the chores at home, equally helping raise children, and feeling empowered to work on becoming the best version of yourself possible.

My business is built on these values…

Respect…

When a man respects his partner, he listens and validates her feelings, stays true to his word, and trusts his partner at her word.

Effective communication…

Communication is so much more than just talking. Learning how to best connect with your date or partner is taught by learning body language, effective listening, and how to reflect so that your partner feels fully understood and supported.

Enthusiastic consent…

Enthusiastic consent means you need to hear a “yes” rather than the absence of a “no.” Enthusiastic consent can be stated verbally or through nonverbal cues and shows that you respect women and their right to say “no” at any point in your relationship. Consent is sexy, and everyone wins!

The men I take on as clients must…

Respect women…

You think that games belong on the court. You genuinely care about your partner’s feelings and desires. You can handle a healthy disagreement and believe in working problems out with patience. You are honest and loyal and want someone who values that about you.

Practice enthusiastic consent with their partners…

You ask permission before physical contact with phrases like “Is this OK?”

You make it clear to your partner that you can stop at any time and periodically check with your partner to ensure she is still comfortable and positive about the experience.

Strive to become equitable partners in their relationships…

You understand that a relationship is a two-way street. My clients are not the Don Draper type; they believe in splitting household and caretaking responsibilities with their partner and are looking for a balanced relationship, not a mommy!

Nodding your head throughout this page?

Then Modern Meet is the right place for you!

Contact me today at (854) 529-1446 for a brief consultation, and let’s discuss how to revamp your dating life and meet the woman of your dreams!